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30 Duct Tape Hacks Everyone Needs to Know By Rachel Reed PART ONE

Tough to Open Jars

Of all the duct tape hacks out there, this is the one hack I wish I’d known sooner. We’ve all encountered stubborn jars and learned a trick or two to open them. But those who use this hack say it’s the best method when other jar opening efforts have failed.

Rip off a piece of duct tape, line the end along the edge of the lid. Be sure NOT to attach the tape to the jar. Flatten the excess. Stick a new piece to the first piece, leaving tape dangling so you’ll have a pull strip. Hold the jar steady with one hand and pull with the other. 

Repair a Leaky or Damaged Pipe

It’s true, there are several kinds of tape out there that can quickly repair a small leak. But duct tape is considered one of the top tapes to stop a leaking pipe when you’re in a bind.

Word to the wise, make sure your tape makes good contact with the pipe. Otherwise, pockets could form where water can gather. Also, remember that duct tape is water-resistant, but not completely waterproof. It should only be used as a temporary measure. 

Repair a Damaged Water Bottle 

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Narcissists Who Claim To Have No Fear

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Narcissism is a fear-based pattern of life.  That stated, there are very few narcissists who will agree that they indeed operate with fear leading the way.  Instead, they will claim that such a statement doesn’t apply to them (keeping in mind they are pretty impressed with oneself).  They like to think of themselves as enlightened and you as the one who should fear them.  Nonetheless, their inaccurate presumptions do not change the truth.

We often think in stereotypes when we consider fear, but that limits our insights when we do.

For instance, fear can manifest in hyper-vigilance, trembling, anxiety, or being overtly intimidated.  So, if the narcissist sees none of that within, they presume they are off the hook.  But in doing so, they overlook many other behaviors that are a dead giveaway for fear.

As you learn to navigate your relationship with narcissists, you can make well-informed adjustments once you see them for who they really are. So, it will be to your advantage to recognize that behind their false superiority and their many insensitivities, they indeed harbor much fear. And seeing the truth about their fear, you can be positioned to respond to their many control messages wisely.

To get to the heart of the matter, it would be revealing if we could get honest answers to questions about their most common behaviors and attitudes.  Even when the narcissist claims to have no fears, you can know otherwise.  For instance, we could ask:

  • Why do you lie so easily? And why do you only offer selective disclosures about who you really are? Their slippery relationship with truth reveals a fear of being transparent since (to them) that would require letting go of power, becoming accountable instead.
  • Why is it so important for you to control others? A narcissist’s need to fit people inside their agenda implies a lack of trust and feeling threatened by differences. Likewise, the need for control implies trepidation at the prospect of sifting through another person’s distinctives.
  • Why do you resort to intimidation? Typically, narcissists intimidate as a hedge against coordinating with others. Being a team player represents accepting a lowered status. They fear being “average.”
  • Why are you so pathologically defensive? A defining ingredient of narcissism is defensiveness. Narcissists have crafted a False Self, and they dread being deemed less than ideal. So, they justify, deny, rationalize, and project…all because they are in chronic cover-up mode.
  • Why are you a psychological chameleon? Socially, narcissists attempt to create false impressions for the purpose of being accepted or blending in with the group in front of them. Not wanting (fearing) to be known as pathological, they yearn for admiration, and if it means appearing as someone they are not, they are willing to do so.
  • Why do you respond to differences or confrontations with unhealthy anger? A narcissist’s blustery anger lies in direct proportion to the amount of fear inside. They are overwhelmed when others differ, triggering an impulse to shut down any and all dissent. Ultimately, they feel inept with the task of blending with others.
  • You hate being judged, so why do you readily judge others? A narcissist’s proclivity toward judgment and criticism represents an attempt to gain a “first strike” upper hand in relationship competitions. Having learned that judgment, guilt, and shame are just one misstep away, they seek to neutralize your potential judgments.

There are more questions we could ask as we uncover a narcissist’s hidden fears, but suffice to say that narcissists have such pervasive insecurity that it is strongly predictable that their fears will creep into a wide array of behavioral responses.

Each time a narcissist indicates that they have no fears, keep in mind that you are in the presence of one with astonishingly low insight. They are self-serving egoists who must have the final word despite what the facts clearly indicate. They are too emotionally fragile to say: “I’d like to learn from you, so I’ll gladly hear what you have to say.”

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Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART 6

Prevent Stains on Your Collar

Do you ever take off your white shirt at the end of the day, only to realize your collar is covered in stains? Whether it’s makeup, self-tanner, dirt, oils, or something else entirely, I always find myself having to deal with a dirty collar.

However, you can easily prevent it by just wiping your neck with rubbing alcohol while you’re getting dressed in the morning. It will remove any oils, dirt, or makeup and keep it looking spic and span.

Clean Bathroom Faucets

Cleaning wipes and other products work just fine on bathroom appliances, but they don’t always leave them sparkling. Sure, they may keep them clean, but who wants to have dull bathroom fixtures? Not me! If you want your bathroom faucets and shower fixtures to look shiny and new, use a little rubbing alcohol.

Just apply a bit to a rag and wipe the fixtures down completely. I guarantee your bathroom appliances will look brand new afterward! Try to use the alcohol weekly to always keep them looking nice. 

 

Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART FIVE

Fix Your Broken Makeup

I can’t even count on one hand the number of times I dropped a perfectly good eye shadow palette, only to see it crushed into a million pieces. Makeup is not cheap, let me tell you, so it’s also frustrating when a product breaks.

Thankfully, all you have to do to repair a broken blush, bronzer, or eye shadow palette is to spray it with alcohol. Once it’s wet, smooth the product out with a spoon and let it harden over a few hours. Good as new!

Clean Furniture

You may clean your floors and scrub down your bathroom, but when was the last time you cleaned your furniture? If you’re anything like me, it has probably been too long.

The good news, however, is you just need rubbing alcohol to get any stains out of microfiber furniture. Just rub the alcohol on the stain and let it soak into the fabric. You can use a cloth to dab it in, but you won’t have to worry about the alcohol staining the fabric.

Soothe Skin Irritation

As mentioned above, rubbing alcohol can do a lot of wonders for the skin. Though most of us know rubbing alcohol can remove nail polish, many don’t know it can actually help to soothe skin irritations. It’s true!

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Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART FOUR

Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life

Ice Pack in a Pinch

Stop buying ice packs at the store or filling up a bag full of ice, only to have it melt 20 minutes later. You can actually make an ice pack at home with just a little bit of rubbing alcohol and water.

Put about ⅓ cup of rubbing alcohol and ⅔ cup of water into a Ziplock bag and freeze it. Since there’s alcohol in the bag it won’t freeze, so the mixture can cover the area of your body that’s in pain.

Remove Permanent Marker

I have gotten permanent marker stains on everything. From a white t-shirt to my couch to even my bedsheets, it certainly feels like there’s nothing you can do when you get a permanent marker on something.

But, if you have a little rubbing alcohol, you may be able to get it out. Just put a little of the alcohol on the stain and then use a clean rag to rub it out. The stain should come right out! Just do your best to take care of the stain ASAP, rather than wait too long.

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Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART THREE

Clean Makeup Brushes

When’s the last time you cleaned your makeup brushes? If you can remember, now’s probably the time to do it. Our makeup brushes touch our faces almost every day, so it’s a good idea to clean them as often as possible.

But, rather than buy an expensive makeup cleaner, just gather your brushes and soak them in rubbing alcohol for half an hour. Once they’re done soaking, rinse them in a little bit of soap and water and let them air dry. 

Calm Down Cold Sores

Cold sores always seem to pop up at the worse possible time. Whether it’s a big job interview, a wedding, or a date you’re really looking forward to, it’s never fun to wake up and realize you have a giant cold sore on your lip.

However, you can soothe and maybe even diminish them with just a little bit of rubbing alcohol. Take a cotton ball, soak it in the rubbing alcohol, and then dab the cold sore with it before you go to bed. When you wake up in the morning it might be gone!

Say Goodbye to Ticks

Most of us are hyper-vigilant about removing ticks off ourselves following a long hike or a night of camping, but dogs deal with ticks all the time. If you’re struggling to keep ticks off your dog, use rubbing alcohol to keep them at bay.

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Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART TWO

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Perfect Granite Cleaner

Stop buying expensive cleaners to use on your nice countertops. While those probably work well and get the job done, you don’t need to be spending lots of money on cleaning products.

Rubbing alcohol mixed with water and essential oils is actually a wonderful cleaner for granite countertops, as it’s not abrasive and isn’t filled with a bunch of unnecessary chemicals. Plus, it gets the job done in no time. You can even keep your homemade solution in a spray bottle for easy use.

Get Rid of Hair Lice

If you’re anything like me, then you have recurring nightmares about finding lice in your hair. While it may only seem like something elementary school kids have to deal with, the truth is anyone can get lice at any age.

But, all you need to do to deal with it is to pour rubbing alcohol on your hair and let it sit for about 30 minutes. Once you’ve let it sit, wash it out with water. After the initial treatment, dip a comb in alcohol and comb it through your hair.

Remove Ear Wax

You may have seen videos of people using candles to get ear wax out of their ears, but let me tell you, there are easier ways to do it. Just mix rubbing alcohol and vinegar together, take a cotton swab, and use it to clean out your ear.

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Rubbing Alcohol Hacks That’ll Change Your Life By Zoe Jewell PART ONE

Rubbing alcohol may be the greatest invention known to man. While there are a number of obvious things you can do with rubbing alcohol — like take off nail polish and clean out a cut — there is so much more you can do with this cleaning product.

From stretching out shoes to removing pesky stickers to even combatting underarm sweat, rubbing alcohol takes care of it all. So, if you have some sitting around your home that you don’t know what to do with, here is a list of hacks that’ll change your life! 

Clean Your Jewelry

Jewelry, especially diamond rings or silver necklaces, look nice and shiny when they’re first purchased. However, they do get a little dull over time. If you notice your jewelry just isn’t shining as it used to, soak them in rubbing alcohol for a few minutes.

This will remove any dirt or grime and make your jewelry look as good as new! Once you take your pieces out of the alcohol, simply clean them off with a cloth and they should be as shiny as ever.

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12 Tips for Happy, Long-Lasting Relationships Phycology Today - PART TWO

8. Respect boundaries and privacy.

Technological developments make it so easy for us to track each other and to be in constant communication. However, permitting each other to have privacy, as well as not pushing the other person to do things they'd prefer not to do, helps increase happiness in relationships, since it builds up mutual trust.

 

9. Have healthy conflicts.

Surprise—conflicts can be healthy in relationships! If you go into a relationship expecting never to fight, then your first fight could very well lead to the end of the relationship. Instead, learn strategies for healthy conflict resolution, and talk about them with the other person beforehand.

 

Also, when a conflict does arise, start by highlighting how much you care about the other person and the relationship. Talk about both the facts and how you feel about them. Avoid the blame game, and instead be as generous as possible when interpreting the other person’s actions. Be open to changing your mind if you discover you made the mistake, and apologize quickly and profusely. Avoid focusing on the past and instead orient toward better behavior in the future. At the end of any conflict, focus on reconnecting and rebuilding emotional bonds strained by the conflict. My wife and I have found these techniques to be so helpful in resolving tensions between us!

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12 Tips for Happy, Long-Lasting Relationships -PART ONE Phycology Today Gleb Tsipursky Ph.D.

1. Be honest.

Any issues you avoid, or truths you don’t want to acknowledge, will likely undermine your relationship. It’s better to face the truth squarely in the face right now and address it, rather than let it sabotage your relationship in the long run.

For that reason, be intentional and figure out the truth about your relationship. Think through all aspects of it—your feelings and thoughts, the other person’s feelings and thoughts, as well as their external context. If you notice yourself flinching away from a certain aspect of reality, this is the time to double down your focus and really get at the truth.

 

2. Avoid "failing at their mind."

One of the biggest dangers in close relationships is assuming the other person is exactly the same as you in their feelings and thoughts — in other words, "failing at their mind." At times, our emotional self just doesn’t want to accept that the person we’re so close to is actually different from us—sometimes very different. I know I've made this mistake, and it has cost me dearly in the past. So how do we avoid it?

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DATE RIGHT I’m a dating expert – here are six top tips on how to make your relationship last Lynn Kernan Published: 15:44, 8 Jan 2023Updated: 14:54, 9 Jan 2023

But if you’re looking for lasting love, are apps the right place to go? 

And how can you make sure your chances of matching with ‘the one’ are as high as possible?  

Dating guru Michelle Elman says the start of the year always brings fresh hope for singles.

The author said: “The start of a new year tends to bring about a new energy that helps us to be more hopeful.

“Internet dating and dating apps are still around because they work.

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Let's Kick off the New Year Right—Here Are 55 New Year's Resolution Ideas for 2023 PART THREE

35. Buy less plastic.

It's polluting our oceans, destroying the earth, and hurting animals. Be more aware of what you're buying.

36. Send handwritten letters.

Nobody does this anymore, and it's such a thoughtful, genuine gesture. Make somebody's day!

Related: How To Address an Envelope

37. Donate clothes you never wear.

We tend to hang onto stuff "just in case." If you haven't worn it in a year, give someone else the chance to.

38. Pay off your credit card every month.

And if something is so expensive that you think that you won't be able to? Don't buy it.

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Let's Kick off the New Year Right—Here Are 55 New Year's Resolution Ideas for 2023 PART TWO

2023 21. Keep a journal.

The University of Rochester Medical Center says that journaling can help battle anxiety, stress and depression. Even if you write only a few sentences, you can reap the benefits.

Related: New Year's Eve Songs

22. Clean out your car.

It's so easy for it to become trashed, especially if you drive a lot. Spot clean as you go so that your ride is always looking sharp.

23. Put your bills on autopay.

If this won't put you under any financial stress, do it! It's one less thing you have to think about and you'll never pay late fees again. Win-win.

24. Take the stairs.

It's good for your caboose.

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Let's Kick off the New Year Right—Here Are 55 New Year's Resolution Ideas for 2023

Lose weight. Quit social media. Cut out alcohol completely. Blah blah blah snoozefest. These are all good goals, don't get me wrong. But we set the same New Year's resolutions every single year and then... never really stick to them. So, for 2023, why not shake things up a bit and try creating resolutions of a different variety? Whether you choose one New Year's resolution or all 55, you'll be better off for it.

55 New Year's Resolutions to Try for 2023

1. Focus on a Passion, Not the Way You Look

Influencer Mik Zazon, who's on a mission to "normalize normal bodies," tells Parade, "... I want to inform readers that resolutions are in fact NOT an invitation to start a diet or a workout plan but a beautiful reminder that a new year can bring new life to our passions."

Still want to find a better you, physically, in 2023? In that case...

2. Work out to feel good, not be thinner.

Instead of obsessing over the scale, obsess over how amazing you feel since you started being more active. Numbers don't mean much.

Related: Best New Year's Quotes

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Are You a Narcissist’s Doormat?

Narcissists are users. While they are capable of creating false positive impressions, behind the scenes they seek ways to be in an advantaged position. Presuming superiority, they like to find people who will play the role of the underling. Wherever they are, they want and need a human doormat they can wipe their feet upon.

As narcissists assess people, they think, Who can I most easily use and exploit? Which person is most likely to cater to my cravings, mandates, and self-serving initiatives? Who will give me the least resistance as I advance my causes? Which person can I out-argue? Who is most gullible, or at least the most pliable?

Narcissists are all about dominance, meaning they need people who will acquiesce, and that’s where you come in. A starting point in their relational style is entitlement. So, in their minds, it is your job to service them, propping up their egotistical yearnings. And along the way, if you show feelings of hurt or disillusionment, you will receive reminders of the impropriety of those feelings. With narcissists, you are always in the position of subordination.

So, what do narcissists look for as they seek individuals to fill the role of the doormat?

  • Let’s look at multiple features:
  • A willingness to go along to get along. Narcissists like people who are naturally flexible.
  • People who have FOMO, the fear of missing out. They will prey upon your hunger to be included and accepted.
  • Weak assertiveness skills. To the narcissist, the more conflict averse you are, the better.
  • Someone who says yes when they need to say no.
  • A person who is disinclined to debate or push back. Narcissists need the final word.
  • People who are natural servants, who have a reputation for helpfulness. Narcissists believe they should be served.
  • Those who are motivated by duty and obligation.
  • Those who are susceptible to messages of guilt and shame.
  • People who naturally give others the benefit of the doubt. Narcissists like being attached to people who let their weaknesses slide.
  • Those who are inclined to receive the narcissist’s sales pitch.

If you fit the profile of one who has become a doormat to the narcissist, there is a virtual guarantee that you will struggle with feelings of resentment, distrust, insecurity, and betrayal. You will want out, but you may find it difficult to navigate the barrage of coercive comments that will predictably come your way. But in the end, it will be essential to understand that you are in a losing situation that has no end date. Narcissists will use you and step all over you for as long as you allow. It’s a pitiable strategy for dominance, but it’s simply built into their character.

How to move forward

That being the case, become a person of assertion and boundaries. Don’t expect the narcissist to like your independence, but do what you need to do anyway. Define who you want to be and how you want to prioritize each day. Then commit to your own common sense. And when the narcissist inevitably scorns, don’t defend. Instead, remind yourself that the narcissist virtually never has your best interests at heart, so it remains up to you to care for yourself.

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The Final Countdown: Last-Minute Gift Ideas for Christmas

FOOD AND DRINK ARE YOUR BEST OPTIONS!

LASER ENGRAVED HARDWOOD CHEESE BOARD

Charcuterie board connoisseurs will flip for this hardwood serving board, which includes a ceramic bowl and four cheese tools, as well as a laser engraving of your recipient's initial.

ButcherBox

This is one last-minute gift that will provide days, if not weeks of great eats for your recipient! ButcherBox is a food subscription service that's known for their excellent-quality meat and meticulous sourcing.

If you're gifting for an omnivore and avid home cook who could use a little break on their grocery bills this time of year, get them a ButcherBox Favorites bundle, give them a heads up that it's coming in a few days' time, and prepare for the outpouring of gratitude.

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Christmas trees can stay fresh for weeks – a well-timed cut and consistent watering are key

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Every year somewhere between 25 million and 30 million Christmas trees are sold in the United States. If you’re one of the people who decorate for the holiday with a freshly cut Christmas tree, you might be wondering how to keep it looking good all the way through Santa’s visit – and maybe even a little beyond.

Curtis VanderSchaaf is a forestry specialist at the Mississippi State University Extension Service who knows a thing or two about conifers. The Conversation U.S. asked him for guidance on how to keep a fresh green Christmas tree from becoming a giant pile of brown needles, for as long as possible. Whether you end up with a Douglas fir, a Scotch pine, a Leyland cypress, a piñon or any other evergreen, he says the quality of care you provide is a major factor in the prolonged freshness of your tree.

What to consider when choosing a tree

Select a tree that looks fresh and whose needles are not brittle. You want one that has a strong fragrance and a dark natural green color. Avoid bored holes in the wood, signs of bugs – like spider egg sacs – and other marks of pest damage. This advice holds whether you’re chopping down your own tree or buying it from a retailer.

Different species of trees have various colors, shapes, branching habits, needle types, scent and even bark type. Depending on what’s available to you, this comes down to personal preference.

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20 Great Holiday Conversation Starters to Break the Ice and Connect with Anyone By Matt Valentine

Whether it’s a party with family at Christmas Eve, the company holiday party, or a get together with friends and acquaintances, one thing is for certain: you probably have a lot more opportunities for small talk over the holidays than you typically would any other time.

That’s why, no matter where you are over the holidays or who you’re with, it can be useful to have some handy conversation starters to make sure no conversation ever starts– or goes– dull.

 Here are twenty holiday conversation starters to help you make the holidays a time of less anxiety and more good cheer.

20 Holiday conversation starters

  • How do you shop for gifts for the holidays?
  • How do you stay sane during the holidays?
  • What are you looking forward to for next year?
  • What is the coolest gift you’ve ever given someone and why?
  • What is the coolest gift you’ve ever received and why?
  • What’s the best unused business or product idea you’ve ever had? Or an idea you had that you realized someone had already come up with?
  • Who’s the best, or coolest, person you met all year?
  • What’s the most exciting thing that happened to you this year?
  • What’s the most dangerous thing that happened to you this year?
  • What book is sitting on your figurative nightstand right now?
  • What do you think about the holidays? Do you love the lights and bustling December mall vibe or think there’s too much commercialism?
  • What happened this year that you’re grateful for?
  • If you could talk to anyone in the world right now, who would it be and why?
  • What kind of a holiday decorator are you?
  • What do you want for Christmas this year?
  • If you had an hour of free time right now how would you spend it?
  • What is your favorite thing to do with your family over the holidays?
  • What is your New Years resolution?
  • Are the holidays a fun time for you or a drag? (This question is less fun than some others, but many don’t have great holiday memories, so it’s not a particularly happy time for them. But this is great for going deep quickly if they say it’s a drag. If they say it’s a happy time use the follow-up question below.)
    • What is your favorite holiday memory?

Conversation tips for the holidays

Remember not to just leave it at these questions. These are starters, so follow up your question by asking them to tell you more or offering your own view or answer and then following that up with another question.

And don’t make it all about you asking questions. People don’t like feeling like they’re being interrogated, so balance listening with speaking (yes, it’s actually good to talk– you’re not interviewing them!).

 

Having said that, be the best listener you can be while they’re talking. Most people converse in a way where they’re just waiting for their next chance to speak. Have you ever had a conversation with someone like that? You hate talking to people like that, right? Everyone does, so don’t be that guy or gal.

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4 Types of People You Should Never Friend on Facebook

Facebook can be a wonderful communication tool for friends, but it can also get a little too familiar and invasive if you don't manage it properly. In terms of friendship, there are several people that you should never become friends with because it will just add too much drama to your already busy and complicated life.

Unlike other forms of social media, Facebook can show people a much more intimate look at your life, and once you have friended someone there is usually a lot of drama involved in unfriending them. Instead, it's best to hold off on approving these types of friend requests. 

 

Don't Send Friend Requests to an Ex

Do yourself a favor and never friend an ex on Facebook, even if you are friends in real life. 

If you weren't friends with your ex before your relationship, it's probably not a good idea to try and be Facebook friends now. Facebook should be an extension of your personal life, which means developing your relationships, sharing pictures, and having more communication with genuine friends (real life or online). However, if you friend someone based on the fact that you used to go out and then broke up, you're beginning things on a negative note right from the start.

It might be tempting to see what your ex is up to, but you'll probably get more information that you ever wanted or needed. Look at their friendship as the equivalent of going back a few steps into the past. Do you really want to do that?

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Ten Explanations for Why Your Friends Didn't Invite You

Getting excluded from an outing with your friends can be a real bummer, but it doesn't always mean that something is wrong. There could be any number of reasons why you weren't asked along to whatever they happened to be doing. Here are ten possible reasons why your friends left you behind this time.

 

You Take Too Long to Decide on Plans

 

Maybe you wait until the last minute to decide whether or not you want to go somewhere, and for a particular outing your friends just needed to go ahead and make plans. Being spontaneous is nice, but if it holds up the other people in your group, your friends may just skip you next time.

 

You Don't Get Along With Everyone

 

If you've made it clear you don't like someone that hangs out with your group (even occasionally), your friends may just not invite you to avoid any kind of drama. Maybe you think you've been subtle in your dislike of someone, but if there's any chance at all of snarky comments, dramatic scenes, or arguments, your friends will try their best to just leave you off the guest list so they can have a smooth night.

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