Do you ever have moments of anger? Of course, the answer is yes, in the sense that each person feels this emotion at some level, and there are multiple types of anger styles.
Let’s not stereotype our understanding of anger by presuming that it only involves rude, mean-spirited communication. Yes, people often misuse it that way, but it is much broader than that. Included in our identification of the five anger styles are reactions of frustration, annoyance, irritability, agitation, impatience, and so forth. It is a broad based emotion with many manifestations.
Anger is part of your personality’s alert system, and it is triggered by the need to preserve oneself.
Specifically when you feel angry, you wish to preserve:
- Your worth as a human: “Would you please show me respect!”
- The legitimacy of your needs: “I want you to regard my needs.”
- Your primary convictions: “I have beliefs that define who I am, notice them.”
It is well and good that you might feel angry, but as you acknowledge the emotion, you can go deeper by also asking, “What does my use of anger reveal about me in general?” Unfortunately, many people are not disciplined with their anger, and it is little more than a force for disruption. Others, fearing what might happen as they express anger, allow insecurity and pessimism to prompt coy or devious expressions.
But let’s hold onto the notion: With all anger styles, you have choices. You can choose to let it run its course negatively. You can let it eat away at your inner self, resulting in an unhappy manner of living. Or you can choose to blend your anger management in with a constructive manner of life. Where do you want to go with it?
Once your personality registers anger, there are five different anger styles that you can choose.
Let’s examine the five anger styles, noting along the way what these anger styles reveal about who you are in that moment. Becoming self aware, you can be poised to handle anger in ways that enhance, rather than diminish, your quality of life.
TO BE CONTINUED. . . . .