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Survival Skills

15. How to Keep Yourself Safe

It’s natural human instinct to WANT to stay safe and avoid unsafe situations, but we see on the news and in our own lives, many people who go against that logic and put themselves in unsafe situations. This can be anything from driving home after that third glass of wine to walking in an unfamiliar neighborhood at night. Not to say you shouldn’t take risks, but you should learn to take precautions in all situations, from phoning a friend to being aware of your surroundings to just saying no.

16. Emergency Preparedness

When a disaster hits, like a hurricane, tornado, earthquake, or a global pandemic like COVID-19, would you know what to do? What if your house burneWHC---7Cd down or you were in an accident? Emergency preparedness can sometimes seem extreme or scary, but having basic emergency skills and knowing what to do if a catastrophe strikes can help you gain peace of mind and keep you and your family safe from harm. And it’s definitely not too late to take action on any of these today!

17. Basic First Aid

Do you know what to do if someone has a deep cut or a broken bone? Do you know the signs of a heart attack, a stroke or a concussion? As moms, we often have to be many things, but when we have to bring out the doctor’s bag, it can be our most critical role. Pick up a basic first aid book if you feel like your skills are rusty. It’s common to panic in emergency situations, but if you’re well versed in first aid, you’ll be able to rely on your instincts and knowledge and you’ll come to the rescue with a cooler head.

18. How to Survive Without Electricity

Like emergency preparedness, the prospect of going without electricity can be a little daunting and scary. How many of us go camping? (Or backyard camping?) Being able to unplug and entertain yourself without technology or even without the use of lights, television sets, and the stove is a skill, which at the very least will get you and your family through the next power outage, and at best, will help you communicate better and get away from your cell phones once in a while.

19. How to Read a Map

With GPS available on nearly every smartphone, I know map reading is rapidly becoming an obsolete skill. But aside from having to learn this skill for the occasional digital detox, map reading is vital, even if it’s just so you can gain a basic understanding of geography and route yourself accordingly. Anyone who’s tried to navigate a subway system or spent time in a rural area with spotty data service quickly realizes the merits of being able to read a good ol’ fashioned map. Brush up on your map skills and learn to take inventory of your location wherever you are. It’s a safe practice and it just may help you find your car in that mall parking garage someday. It’s also a wonderful life skill to teach your kids who heavily rely on that GPS map.

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Technical Skills

7. How to Use a Calendar & Schedule

The ability to use a clock and a calendar is at the foundation of time management—which is a life skill in itself. A calendar simplifies your life and helps you get everything done, every day. You don’t have to live and die by your calendar, but learning how to block off time for activities and scheduled events will make your life SO much easier.

8. How to Write

Now, I’m not saying everyone needs to be able to blog or that you need to be able to write a masterpiece at the drop of a hat, but having a basic understanding of sentence structure and written expression can take you far in life. Some people HATE writing with the fire of a thousand suns, while others feel it’s the only way they truly express their inner thoughts. If you’re of the former school, consider taking a basic creative writing class or finding a writing course online that can help you brush up on those skills

9. Public Speaking

Similar to writing, speaking—especially public speaking—can cause some of us to cower in the corner while others take to it like fishes in the water. Public speaking is not my favorite thing, but everyone can learn some helpful tips for speaking better, like remembering to breathe, being prepared and connecting with your mission and expressing it to your audience. If you’re brave and once you can, take the plunge and sign yourself up for a speaking opportunity, a talk in church, or the open forum at your PTO meeting. The more you practice, the better you’ll become.

10. Effective Communication

Whether we’re talking about writing or speaking, communication is a vital life skill that encompasses both. No one makes it through this world alone, so learning to communicate with others will help you get where you need to be in life—and it’s definitely a learned skill. It’s about expressing your needs and desires while understanding and relating to others’ needs and desires. Communicating with your spouse, your children and your friends can help you learn, grow and become stronger. It’s through communication that we form relationships and friendships, so being good at it means you’ll be successful in your interactions with others.

11. Technology 101

Okay, I still can’t always do everything on my phone to “un-tap its full potential,” but basic computer skills are necessary for life today. At a minimum, you should be able to email and use the internet for basic searches. Technology can be a powerful and useful tool that can truly simplify your life. So let go of the fear that you’ll “break” something or click on something that you can’t undo. It’s worth it.

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So what is a life skill? According to the dictionary …

life-skill (noun)

plural noun: life skills

A skill that is necessary or desirable for full participation in everyday life. “Sharing with a sibling can help children learn important life skills.”

 

Housekeeping Skills

1. Basic Housekeeping Skills + How to Clean

From making your bed to laundry basics, we all need basic housekeeping skills. This means everyone! Men and women, from college students to grandparents: keeping a tidy house is a life skill that ensures the health of your family, keeps you organized and able to find what you need, and saves you money so you can keep living the Good Life. If you aren’t sure where to start, try our Beginner’s Guide to Cleaning. If you need help with maintenance, try creating a cleaning schedule or start speed cleaning. To make sure you’re keeping all the bad germs out and away, especially with this virus going around, check out How to Illness Proof Your Home.

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There’s a second way we sabotage ourselves with narcissists. As empaths, we are calm, compassionate, nurturing, caring individuals who easily have vulnerable exchanges with others. We want to connect. Shallow conversations aren’t in our repertoire. Empaths can read people beyond words.

For example, I go to the grocery store that’s about ½ mile from my home called Market Street. The other day, my son and I were grabbing things for dinner, and the man who usually helps me put groceries in the car made a beeline for me at the checkout line. We discussed his daughter who lives in France and a new granddaughter that he hasn’t seen in 18 months due to COVID-19. Travel restrictions have prevented this sweet, 80-year-old man from seeing his first grandchild. I wished him well and reminded him to eat his favorite cookies from Starbucks.

MY son asked me when Bob walked away, “How in the world do you know all that?” As empaths, we have a deep need for connection. I asked Bob several months ago how he was doing, and his response of “fine” wasn’t convincing. His nonverbal cues indicated a lot of pain. So, I started asking questions.

This is a sweet story, but compassion and the need to connect with others can get empaths in trouble.

Take a narcissist who needs to learn as much as that person can to hold it over your head next time you get in an argument. Maybe you and your mother disagreed and you’re estranged. You haven’t spoken to her in 5 years. You share this with a narcissist to show your vulnerability and that you trust this person. A toxic person may not share back, but you feel better because you feel like you’ve connected.

Empaths often divulge too much information too soon in conversations to connect. We don’t wait on someone to earn our trust. We just confide. We think the other person is as trustworthy as we are.

Sadly, life is full of people who aren’t worthy of your secrets. They don’t have your best interest in mind. You can’t safely confide in them. We must become more diligent with whom we share our biggest fears and failures. With a narcissist, it almost always comes back to haunt you.

Why did I share with Bob? If you look at the story, I didn’t and haven’t shared much at all.  I listened.  I gave Bob empathy and gentleness. Is he a narcissist? I don’t think so, but I don’t know so. I can be kind without giving him the gift of my secrets.

Here are some ways to protect yourself and your vulnerability:

  1. Wait to be vulnerable until someone earns your openness. Ask yourself, “Is this person trustworthy?” and “Does this person talk badly about other people?”

  2. Watch and see if this person demonstrates integrity before getting any closer. Ask yourself, “Have I witnessed anything that is a red flag?”

  3. Trust your intuition. If you are nervous or uncomfortable around this person, evaluate how much you want this person in your inner circle, especially as a keeper of your secrets.

The Bible verse Proverbs 4:23 reads, “Above all else guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” And sometimes this means guarding what we share. And more importantly, with whom.

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I have a couple of stories to tell you. The one now is a little darker, and the one near the end of this article might make you smile. However, both illustrations have important lessons.

I have a client I’ll call Allison. Allison has been married to a narcissist for over 30 years with no plans to leave him. Her sons are moving in with her again as they get started on the next chapter of their lives, and Allison doesn’t want to disrupt the family. She just wants peace.

Her husband has been vacillating between operating as a love-bombing machine then evolving into a demeaning, devaluing, passive-aggressive fiend. One minute he tells her she’s amazing and he couldn’t live without her. The next second he’s telling he’s using religion to dictate what kind of wife she should be.

Anyway, she reached out to me a few weeks ago and asked if she should get a private investigator. To understand exactly what she is dealing with.  My answer? Yes.

I say this because as empaths, we want to believe the best in people. We look at life and others through our rose-colored lenses of kindness, empathy, and understanding. We often focus on our own character development, and we try to find the best in everyone else, no matter how many red flags we see in another person’s character. We want to love someone until they don’t hurt anymore. We want to fix it. We want to come to the rescue.

For years, if not decades, Allison thought her husband would never cheat, steal, or lie. Now, after looking at him through clear lenses of reality (with me holding her hand), Allison thinks her husband might be having affairs. She also wants to know if he’s spending exorbitant amounts of money on things she doesn’t know about.

You might be saying, “Wow, Laura, you sure are badmouthing her guy.” No, I am going by what we know about narcissists. They feel entitled to whatever they need. For many, that’s unlimited lovers, sex, money, attention, and adoration.

What would knowing more do? What if a private investigator followed Allison’s husband around and investigated his finances?  It would give Allison knowledge. It would give her clarity. It would give her more direction on her future. You can ask the narcissist to divulge these things. But also ask yourself, “Will I get the truth?”

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Narcissists often look for partners who show:

  • Empathy
  • Kindness
  • Determination
  • Loyalty
  • Happiness
  • Perseverance
  • Confidence
  • Forgiveness
  • Self-sacrifice
  • Accommodation

5. Narcissists want to control.

It helps assuage the narcissist’s pain underneath the false sense of self. If they can control you and your relationships then also deprive you of your financial freedom, then in their minds, they have won.

There are some things you can do to make a relationship with a narcissist easier:

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The snowstorm that ravaged Texas a few weeks ago took us all by surprise. I had no electricity, including heat, for three days, when temperatures plummeted close to zero. Then, the natural gas company sent texts to millions of Texans urging us to conserve gas when using fireplaces or stoves.

The extreme cold ruptured pipes, causing major flooding inside homes and businesses. Many people suffered, trying to stay warm.

For me, there was one disruption that caused me to shiver, and it was a shock provided by the narcissist in my life. My ex-partner, Shane, had issues with his pool equipment, as did I.  Shane texted me and offered to come to look at my apparatus for damage and get me on the list for repairs.

It would be nice to trust this gesture, wouldn’t it? Unfortunately, history has proven differently when it comes to narcissists. You can’t take their actions at face value. There is almost always an ulterior motive.

I began to ask myself, “What does he want?” I’ll share my assumed answers to that question at the end of this article. But first, let look at the common needs of a narcissist.

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To help move through the stages of grief, it’s important to get help to do so. Here is a list of what many survivors do to move through the healing process.

  1. Find a therapist specializing in narcissistic abuse recovery
  2. Find a recovery coach
  3. Join support groups
  4. Write in a journal daily
  5. Work with a spiritual healer or minister
  6. Attend Divorce Care

The more you invest in your healing with time and effort, the more quickly you should feel better.

I have some final thoughts on life without the narcissist that you need to remember as you heal.

One is that life with a narcissist will not be how life “should be.” Ever. A narcissist cannot provide that and doesn’t want to provide what you need or deserve. For almost any narcissist, that would mean sharing, giving, and showing empathy. It’s not going to happen, most likely. In most cases, narcissists aren’t capable. In rare cases, if they have the capability, they don’t want to do the work a healthy relationship takes.

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Denial – is the first stage of the grieving process. Denial helps us cope. Without denying what has happened, the world would feel meaningless and we would feel hopeless. Denial helps us pace ourselves as we move through the process of letting go.

Anger – is the second stage of the grieving process. You may find that you are angry at friends, family members, strangers, and others.  The anger will also come and go. It is rooted in your heart and soul from the narcissist, but it must escape your mind and body, so let it out. Do your best not to injure others when you are angry.

Bargaining – This stage is where survivors once again turn the magnifying lens on themselves. We bargain with God and ourselves, asking, “What can I do so this turns out to be a bad dream? What did I do wrong? If I correct my errors, can we go back to how things should be?”

Depression– The website grief.com sums up depression accurately. The website reads, “After bargaining, our attention moves squarely into the present. Empty feelings present themselves, and grief enters our lives on a deeper level, deeper than we ever imagined. This depressive stage feels as though it will last forever. It’s important to understand that this depression is not a sign of mental illness. It is the appropriate response to a great loss.”

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Many narcissistic abuse survivors approach me and ask, “How long does it take to heal?” They often add, “When will the pain stop?” Unfortunately, there is no easy answer.  There are many layers to healing, and there are several stages of grief. A healing timeline can be long or short, depending on how much work we put into feeling better.

First, let’s look at why it’s difficult to heal from narcissistic abuse. One of the biggest reasons is the trauma bonds that we develop with a narcissist.

Trauma bonds are emotional attachments developed out of toxic relationships, particularly when there’s a cycle of abuse. The devaluation then intermittent positive reinforcement causes trauma bonds to grow stronger as time passes. These bonds can happen after days, weeks, months, or years of abuse. It is important to understand that not all abuse survivors have trauma bonds.

Another reason it is difficult to heal from narcissistic abuse is that we are mourning a dream and not reality. The narcissist has taught us to live in their reality, then when we crash into the real world, it’s a big letdown. A narcissist’s abundant charm and empty promises lead us to live on endless hope for a better future.  When we are confronted with the truth of our life as it is, it hurts deeply.

When we learn that the relationship with a narcissist is over, for any reason, we begin to go through the five stages of grief. Elizabeth Kubler Ross, MD, did years of research into the grief process and healing. The stages for grief according to Kubler Ross are:

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Purses

It’s easiest to find an elevated purse, because while it’s still functional, it’s not literally hitting the pavement like your shoes are. Purse designs can be even more creative because they won’t be getting dirty and wet in the same way that footwear does.

Let’s look at this plain leather cross body: it’s a good mid-size purse made of leather, so it’s durable (though also heavy). It is somewhat plain, too.

 

You can find something just a little fancier, like this purse that has a V-shaped flap and extra zipper decoration on the front.

 

Even fancier, there’s this Aldo purse with a chain down the middle and a huge puff ball attached to the handle (that’s easy to take off if you prefer).

 

There are also casual two-toned purses, like this white and brown one that comes with a scarf tied around it. (Of course, you can tie your own scarf around the handle, too!)

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Shoes

Here are some very nice-looking Chelsea boots. These are a neutral black, seem to be of good quality, and are very simple.

However, you can upgrade the look by finding Chelsea boots with some interesting detail, such as a more pointed toe, a two-toned style, or a different texture.

You can upgrade any boot with some interesting details. Even boots that are very casual, such as combat boots, can be elevated.

Belts

Belts are easily elevated with different textures and buckle shapes. Do you remember a few years ago when the Gucci double-G and double-circle belts were so popular? Those double-circular designs added interest while still keeping the belts relatively minimalistic. Of course, you can always go for a big, statement cowboy buckle, but that’s a different look. If you’re not looking to wear a statement belt, and instead want a neutral belt that can blend into a cohesive outfit, look for one with small details, such as a belt buckle that’s oval, braided, or tortoise-shell.

Faux-snakeskin or leopard-print belts add texture and pattern while staying neutral.

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Sometimes we hesitate to buy accessories with special details when we’re trying to build a cohesive wardrobe and get more wear out of our pieces. Buying shoes, belts, gloves, hats, and purses in coordinating neutral colors is a great way to make sure this goes with that—a camel-colored hat will go with your brown parka, and it can also coordinate with a future jacket you may get, such as a purple peacoat. We might tend to avoid accessories with pops of color that could get in the way of that coordination: a camel-colored hat with yellow accents would not coordinate quite as well with that purple peacoat. But even when avoiding pops of color, you can still find accessories with details that elevate the look without making them clash with other items. And it’s worth it for the style payoff: the more interesting design details an outfit has, the more elevated it feels, even when the main pieces are very casual.

Try looking for items that have:

  • Two or three colors in the same family (such as two shades of brown)
  • Layers, like an extra flap, tab, or some kind of decoration.
  • Decorative seams or embroidery that aren’t in a contrasting color but that are still visible against the material.
  • Interesting laces, chains, or straps—ones that are thicker, thinner, or shinier than usual.
  • Bows, ribbons, fringe, feathers, or tassels in the same color family.
  • Hardware, such as buckles or rivets in gold or silver.
  • Neutral patterns, such as leopard print or tortoiseshell.
  • Elements of texture, such as suede, leather, velvet, various faux snakeskins or fur, or other textured elements.
  • Cut-out designs, such as small dots or circles, flowers, or scallops.

To give you some more ideas, here are some suggestions for upgrading classic wardrobe staples with small details—and a few outfit ideas for taking your coordinating wardrobe from good to glam.

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4. Invest in Classic Coats

Find yourself a good coat, wear it over everything, rinse, and repeat. A good leather bomber, a classic trench, a statement winter warmer — you need a great coat. Your closet should play host to a few solid neutrals as well as a more elaborate coat (think pattern, embellishments, or a unique shape) that works over those monochrome outfits I mentioned earlier.

5. Invest in a Hand Steamer

Wrinkles for sure don’t go with your outfit. I love a good hand steamer for last-minute smoothing and to help make your outfit looks their best. And while ironing is great, steamers are much gentler on your clothing, allowing for less wear and tear over time.

6. The Right Accessories

A structured bag, silk scarf, or gold accents (think military buttons or a fancy belt) can easily elevate your look. The right accessories can make all the difference. Choose wisely and wear often.

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2. Add Texture

 Faux suede and leather, boucle, tweed, jacquard, oh my! Give me all the texture! Not only do these materials add visual interest to your outfit, but the special details instantly elevate the simplest of looks.

 

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3. Get it Tailored


Probably the most underrated tip of them all: fit is your friend. (But it can also be your worst enemy.) Take the time to nip a waist, drop a hem, or pin a shoulder. These small changes can make a drastic difference in your overall look.

 

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Spoiler alert: you don’t have to drop tons of cash on clothes to look like a million bucks. In fact, it’s easier to get a polished, pulled together, this-looks-way-more-expensive-than-it-actually-was look with just a few simple styling tricks. Because, let’s be real, we’ve all got bills to pay. And while some say there’s an art to mixing and matching your wardrobe to achieve this style, these ways to make your outfit look more expensive are tried and true.

These are a few of my favorite tips for when you’re ballin’ on a budget.

 

1. Go Monochrome

Whether all black everything is your thing, or you want to do my personal favorite — an all ivory combo — creating a fully monochromatic look is a simple and effective way to make your outfit look more expensive. Opt for different hues within the same color family or choose a navy and black, or black and brown combination. It’s a luxe color pairing that will never go out of style.

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Cope with your emotions with kindness

The phrase eating your emotions is one that hits home for many women. We turn to ice cream and pizza and other favorite comfort foods when the going gets tough: a painful menstruation, a sad breakup, an exceptionally hard day at work or with the kids. So how does one reconcile intuitive eating with the problem of emotional eating?

Tribole and Resch warn readers that emotional eating “may comfort for the short term, distract from the pain, or even numb you. But food won’t solve the problem. If anything, eating for an emotional hunger may only make you feel worse in the long run.”

As a safeguard against perpetuating a cycle of overeating in time of duress, nutritionists commonly advocate for increased self-awareness, urging health-minded people to consider possible aggravating factors that can lead to emotional eating. For example, do you retreat from social support during times of emotional need? Do you not engage in activities that might otherwise relieve stress, sadness, and so on? Do you not understand the difference between physical and emotional hunger? Do you use negative self-talk? Learning to eliminate patterns of behavior that increase negative emotion, and implementing other healthy practices to deal with negative emotions and stressful situations will make you less reliant on food as a source of emotional comfort.

Respect your body

It’s hard to reject diet culture and embrace the inner wisdom of intuition when plagued by body image issues. Nutritionist Brenna O’Malley offers advice for how to realistically respect one’s body, noting that “it’s unrealistic to think we will love every single thing about our bodies.” Instead, one should focus on dressing in clothes that fit, feel comfortable, and make you feel good, as well as talking to oneself with “compassion and kindness” and “moving your body in a way that feels good to you.”

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Discover the satisfaction factor

Perhaps the most enjoyable principle in intuitive eating, the satisfaction factor is about making the act of eating a pleasurable and sensory experience. As Resch and Tribole explain, “When you eat what you really want, in an environment that is inviting, the pleasure you derive will be a powerful force in helping you feel satisfied and content.”

Discovering the satisfaction factor requires careful attention the experience we create for ourselves when we eat. Resch and Tribole point to the culinary culture of Japan, as an example of how food and eating can be a form of ritualized pleasure—even an art form. Mukimono, for instance, is the art of carving vegetables, fruits, and other foods into interesting shapes. Moritsuke is the art of dish presentation. Both practices emphasize and contribute to eating as celebratory experience.

Fortunately, you don’t need to relocate to Japan in order to enjoy the sensory pleasures of the art of eating. There are practices you can implement every time you sit down to eat to make your meal a more enjoyable experience. Cookbook author, and registered dietitian, Ellie Krieger advises: “Slow down instead of shoveling it in mindlessly. Employ all of your senses to fully experience it and how it makes you feel. Before you eat, take in the food with your eyes, appreciating its colors, textures and presentation, and inhale and enjoy its appealing aroma. When you take a bite, chew well, allowing all the flavors to unfold.”

Another easy way to help you appreciate your food is to take time to set your table before you sit down to eat. It literally sets the scene for your meal. And that little act of time and intention also puts you in the right frame of mind to then eat with intention.

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Make peace with food

Related to the idea of rejecting diet culture is the practice of making peace with food. The fact is, each new dieting trend has its own list of “good” and “bad” foods, and after decades of diet culture almost no food groups have been spared some censure. As Virginia Sole, author of The Eating Instinct: Food Culture, Body Image and Guilt in America, observes, “Our catalogue of ‘bad’ foods has been getting bigger and bigger—gluten! red meat! anything in a package!—until we’re apologizing for eating, period.”

Colleen Christensen, a registered dietitian nutritionist and “food freedom” expert, details her own battle to make peace with food, sharing: “I was over my head in diet culture madness (all of that low carb, low calorie, don’t eat after 8 p.m. madness) I knew I couldn’t live the rest of my life that way.”

But how, exactly, do you make peace with foods that diet culture has been making war on for decades? Christensen used “mantras, affirmations, and journaling” to rewire her attitude toward certain foods like bread and pasta. Among her recommended affirmations are “I will treat my body with respect and nourish it with what it asks for,” and “I give my body permission to change.” Another practice Christensen recommends is working to get past your own personal food rules in a systematic fashion. She focused on letting go of one “food rule” at a time, so as not to trigger her desire to restrict her eating—and because it helped her truly appreciate the food she had previously labeled as “bad.”

Challenge the food police

The “food police” according to Resch and Tribole, are stationed deep in our psyche. They “monitor the unreasonable rules that diet culture has created. They shout “negative barbs, hopeless phrases, and guilt-provoking indictments.”

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Weight loss and dieting comprise a multibillion-dollar global industry. Yet, as the World Health Organization reports, “worldwide obesity has nearly tripled since 1975” and “in 2016, more than 1.9 billion adults, 18 years and older, were overweight. Of these over 650 million were obese.” Something is not working here. In fact, some research has shown that dieting may work against our goals of maintaining healthy bodies.

On the one hand, a 1999 study found that dieting “is the most important predictor of new eating disorders,” in adolescents. Adolescent girls who severely dieted were found to be 18 times more likely to develop eating disorders than those who did not. On the other hand, a 2015 study based on an Australian sample found that the odds of obesity were actually higher for those who had dieted in the past year than among those who hadn't—and in fact increased the more regularly a person dieted.

In the face of the failure of diet culture, the philosophy of intuitive eating has gained increasing popularity in the last thirty years.

 

Research designates ten principles for reshaping one’s attitude toward the role of food in a balanced lifestyle. If you’d like to take a step in a balanced direction this National Nutrition Month, consider some of the principles behind this healthy lifestyle.

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