There are so many similarities, yet there are also differences.
So although their behaviours appears similar it all depends on the narcissist, if eight of you were all with a classic narcissist you will have eerily similar story’s, if eight of you were with a vulnerable you’ll all have similar stories, yet because they can cross over depending on the situation and manipulation needed at the time they use it, if one of you is with a malignant, you’ll still have a few Story’s the similar as the other sixteen people who weren’t with a malignant.
It’s a personality type, they are very similar, some will be more physically violent, others will use no physical violence, a lot like to try and strangle you, yet there is those who will not. They do cross over. All use psychological manipulation, most if not all will use the silent treatment, yet some will use it more often than others, or some will go more for the disappearing act, others will use the present silent treatment more, some will spit and slap, some may punch, some will destroy property, others will not, or extremely rare. Some like to bite or kick, some even headbutt walls and doors, etc., some do not. They all gaslight; some are smarter than others in doing so; those who are smarter will use gaslighting as their primary tactic. All will use your weakness to threaten or provoke to gain reactions to blame you. They all have similar behaviours they just use the tactics on different levels, some rage and turn to physical violence, and others plan your downfall more carefully. Most will pity play at some point, the victim narcissist most often, and even if they’re not a covert narcissist, all will manipulate any way they can, they all want control of those around them, due to their lack in cognitive reflection skills, they all believe their own version of reality, some will use a false apology if they think they can gain something by doing so.
Most will idolise you, devalue you and then discard you. Most will come back with the hoover, there is, however, the odd one that’s too lazy to do so.
Narcissists all need attention, positive or negative; they all need control and power, they all seek to destroy those who criticise them, they all have no genuine emotional empathy, and they all see those around them as an extension of themselves, they all exploit people, they all see others as an object to pick up and put down when they can meet a need.
Where we turn the hot tap on for a warm bath, they charm people for positive emotions, and positive attention and admiration.
Where we turn the cold tap on for a drink, they turn to simple fear them or walk on eggshells around them.
Narcissists just use people to meet a need of their own, with no regard for others feelings.
Their reality is the reality, and yours isn’t of value to them.