Sadly, many victims of chronic abusive relationships tend to be attracted to partners who are potential abusers. They respond to the positive aspects of that partner, blind to those that might signal another mistake. Once in the relationship, they may still ignore the signs of abuse, wanting desperately to believe they will be outweighed by the goodness of the partnership.
Many professionals sternly advise that an emotional abuse victim should first resolve these past wounds before entering any new relationship, much like they would advise a co-dependent partner to seek recovery before they might unconsciously enter a relationship with an addict again.
For RELATIONSHIPS to be possible PRIOR TO HEALING, abuse victims must choose a partner who understands and supports their healing journey and can hang with them through the three critical stages that will ensue in that process. If that chosen partner also has trauma of his or her own, then both partners must trust the other to participate fairly in their inevitably more complicated exchanges. Those couples who have been willing to do this through their therapeutic become a team who create relationships that are admirable and remarkable to observe.
There are four stages of healing emotional abuse within a relationship.
Following are the four stages of healing abuse within a love relationship:
Stage One: Acknowledging the Abuse Within Self and Between Partners
TO BE CONTINUED. . .