What kind of person practices grooming?Grooming is practiced by Narcissists, Antisocial predators, con-artists and sexual aggressors, who target and manipulate vulnerable people for exploitation. Grooming has escalated worldwide thanks to the internet because it is so easy for predators to create false profiles. Currently there are more than 500,000 predators are online everyday, world wide.
Cat fishing is defined as: Luring someone into a relationship by adopting a fictional online persona.
There are 2 kinds of cat-fishing:
- A person is pretending to be me – the person stole your photos and or identity and uses this to trick other people. Example: You discover someone entered your details on an adult website to entice prospective clients, when the clients start calling you. The person illegally published your information and sensitive details like your home address on the site, which puts you in danger from predators. The person can be prosecuted for impersonation and jailed. If this happens to you, contact the site immediately to state you were cat-fished. They will close the catfish down.
- You have been cat-fished – you believe you were speaking to a person, when in fact, you were speaking to someone else entirely. Example: A lady who is lonely enters her details into a dating website. She is cat-fished by a person who created a false profile and who pretends to match her likes and wants 100%. She discovers the fraud once the person starts blackmailing, bullying or extortion tactics in one or the other way to hurt you.
AFFILIATION: An offender has to gain access to potential adult victims. Predators are masters in positioning themselves in the proximity of a possible victim. They join social groups, participate in group activities or meet potential victims online via for example dating games.
ACCEPTANCE: The next step is to manipulate the perceptions of other people in such a way that the offender is socially accepted to ”the group”. It is important for the predator to be seen as a valuable part of the group and as a good match for the victim. Acceptance lessens the risk of difficult questions being asked by the group. Secondarily, in ongoing abuse situations, the offender will manipulate the environment is such a way, that the victim will withdraw from the group in an acceptable way. The power and charm of a predator over a victim is scary. Groomers are great con men.
ASSURANCE: An offender thirdly has to assure ongoing access to the victim. He ensures that the group or environment perceives him as harmless. By doing this the offender diminishes the ability of the victim to escape it or be believed.
No one can bring themselves to believe ”such a nice guy” could do such a thing. Most offender also possess power – be it political, monetary or absolute power in the case of a husband or parent. Some also have celebrity status for example in media or sports.
to be continued. . . .