This quiz includes 20 behaviors common to covert narcissists. Mark “yes” to all that apply. We will use your answers to determine if this person is just experiencing moments of insensitivity or if covert narcissism is a central feature to their personality.
Thinks of oneself as a misunderstood, unique person.
A lack of curiosity about people, circumstances, events.
Projecting personal inadequacies or miscalculations onto others.
Lack of accountability regarding matters like time management, money management, plans in general.
Truth is expedient. If lying or leaving out essential details “helps” one’s cause, so be Known as stubborn and dogmatic.
If most of your answers are yes this indicates that covert narcissism is a central feature to that individual’s personality. Relationship wholeness will be next to impossible.
Even if you have been with one another for an extended time, it is likely that you do not know each other at a deep, vulnerable level. This begs the question: Why are we so guarded with each other? It is highly probable that there is hidden insecurity, masked as smugness, and distrust is pervasive. If the relationship has a chance to survive, it will require a long-term commitment to hear each others’ needs, becoming committed to ongoing honesty and trustworthiness. High levels of accountability are needed as well. If these changes do not happen, there is a very low likelihood for relationship satisfaction.
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