The bottom line is they all have a personality disorder, the narcissist personality disorder, they all feel entitled, and they all use others to meet a need of their own.
There are two kinds of people in the world, those who stay in their own lane and do good by others, are pleased for other, look at others and think wow I could do that, without taking others out, and there are those who try to cross lanes to cut people up, destroy others to build themselves up. Not all who are negative are narcissists, yet all narcissists are negative.
If you’ve delt, or you are dealing with anyone like this within your life, be it a parent, sibling, in-laws, child, boss, friend those who threaten, those who invalidate your feelings, and you might fear speaking up or out against them, there are help and support systems available, always call the relevant authorities as soon as someone tries to threaten you, save all emails, messages, photos etc. as evidence.
If you need to take action, set time aside each day to sort, think and take action on what you need to, then use your conscious thoughts, to get on with the rest of your day, look for a better life for you. Things you’d like to accomplish for you in the future, what are you good at? What do you enjoy? Reach out to those who’ve lived it, to give you the understanding and clarity, and often a good mind dump can help, seek appropriate treatment like EMDR. Some people can self recover, and some need extra support and guidance. Look for ways that suit you to overcome anxiety and find the right coping strategies for you, get some exercise, meditation, listen or watch uplifting things, in the smear campaigns don’t worry what others say about you, what they think of you is none of your business, only you define you.
Most importantly, laugh, find your sense of humour, whatever that humour is for you.
When you wake in the morning feeling low and drained, your far from alone, stop yourself, don’t start looking for reasons of why you feel low, no matter how hard, stand tall and put that big smile on your face, and look for all the things that make you feel happy, when something hits that day to bring you down, because life is hard at times don’t do the why me? Do the what is this teaching me? Take a moment to deal with it, if you can not, let it go and move on, find something good, go back to it later if you must, leave it if you can, each and every moment is a moment in time and once done it’s done, so try to make the most, and when it hits hard, remember it’s a moment, it will pass, and it’ll pass quicker if you help it pass.
No, it’s not easy to start. However, it’s possible, and the more you try, the easier it becomes.
Sometimes it can feel like you’re doing so well then bam out of nowhere another storm hits, these storms pass, don’t look at it as problem, or you’ve not made it yet, life is about growth, everything grows, and when it’s not growing it’s dying, flowers lose their petals, to flower again, trees lose their leaves faster in storms, ready to come back the next year after a little bigger and a little brighter than the year before.
When those storms hit, it’s either to remind you of how far you’ve come or to tell you to changes direction, and it’s up to you which you do, storms are never for you to remain stuck.
Sometimes our comfort zone is so uncomfortable, yet we stay for fear of the unknown, yet once we face the fear and step into that unknown, we see our old comfort zone was never that comfortable in the first place.
Stay safe, stay happy, tell yourself you can, and you will.