1. Don’t Mislabel Yourself
The most effective way to stop being codependent is simply to realize that you aren’t. Your behaviors are likely a way to attempt to establish safety while being victimized by someone. Usually so-called codependent behaviors don’t show up before someone is victimized. Don’t take responsibility for your abusers actions by twisting reality to somehow make his actions your fault. It doesn’t matter what you did or do, he is responsible for his own actions. You do not have the power to control someone else.