You may want them to hoover, so you can prove how strong you are, and tell them where to go, you are strong, moving forward with your own life shows that, and they may not be Hoovering as they recognise how strong you are, so would they would prefer to dream that you’d always go back, but not risk their own ego by trying.
You may want to sort financial things out, or belongings, if they have yours this is so you communicate to them, cut you are losing, sort out your own finances as hard as that can be, they will not be accountable, and they will not help. They’ll just delight in you asking them, same as belongings, just chuck their out, and leave yours be, as hard as that can be.
Depending on where the narcissist is on the spectrum, some have an awareness of this, so they are not forthcoming with the hoover, as they are waiting for you to make the first move to get in touch with them. As through many silent treatments they have known you to reach out to them, so as they believe they are entitled, they might be waiting for you to do so again.
Sometimes, they carry on the games to destroy you, the negative hoover, they know they are still in your head, and they are enjoying the negative reactions, which is why it’s vital not to give them any reactions, so they will eventually leave you alone.
They may be stalking you, including your social media with false accounts, to see what their chances are and if it’s worth their time.
They may have called you or message you but not respond when you picked up or messaged back, they just wanted the tone of your voice, or to see if you’d keep trying to message them back, this is a hoover of gaining emotions, and testing the waters.
You may not have been hovered directly, and they may have gotten one of their flying monkeys to get in touch with you, again to see what your response is. Also to see if it’s worth their time trying to hoover you.
You may be still regularly contacting them for answers that they feel no need to hoover, as they are gaining emotional responses anyway.
It might be too soon, and they have someone else meeting their needs, it could be years before they come for the hoover.
They may to consumed in hoovering an ex before you.
You have managed to stay clear of them, avoiding them of all costs, so you’re no longer in their radar to try and hoover you.
You may have made the steps to cut all contact, block all flying monkeys, and they are unable to try and hoover you, this no contact is by far the best option for you, and no hoover, makes it far easier for you to move onto a much better life.
Whatever the reason they are not coming for the hoover, be grateful, it makes healing and becoming happy again, so much easier.
Keep going, keep positive, stay happy, it gets a little easier each day, and soon you will be your happy new found self again.
Keep moving forward with your life. You’ve got this.