When they come for the hoover, they might say things like.
1. “You made me do it. It’s only because you weren’t there for me. If you were more interested in me.” When you’ve discovered they’ve cheated again, blame-shifting onto you, or triangulating you Both, so you work harder to keep them due to your trauma bond.
2. “I’ll go to counselling.” The narcissist has no intentions of changing, and they are buying themselves more time with you. They’ll often use counselling to form an illusion, so you’re the one told by the professionals, that you need to change for the narcissist to make the relationship work, often you’ll be painted as crazy, not always, but a few narcissists have a way of doing this through manipulation of the professional working with you. Professionals are becoming more aware, in spotting precisely what the narcissist is doing and being able to help you.
3. “I miss you, I know you don’t want me back, can we just be friends.” They want friends with benefits, or to triangulate you with their new partner, or use you to make the new partner feel crazy.
4. “Let’s get married,” just because they want to pull on your heartstrings that they really care, sell you the dream to deliver you the nightmare often they wish to take you for all they can in the divorce.