Now I’m going to get to the ‘everything happens for a reason’ part. And this is crucially important because if we don’t believe everything happens for a reason, then we remain a victim.
Being a victim creates powerlessness.
Why? Because we are choosing to believe that life is non-sensical, random and cruel, and we are powerless in a threatening version of life. In fact we feel so powerless that we have to wait for external situations to fix the way we feel about life and ourselves.
This is incredibly fragile, precarious and dependent on things and people that we have no control over, simply because anything outside of our ‘self’ cannot be controlled.
The only control we ever have is with ourself.
There is no denying that narcissistic abuse is one of the most (if not the most) empowering opportunities (via total emotional devastation) to get aligned with your essential Life Truth that will set you free in every area of your life, and not just within relationships.
This truth is: The Creation Of Your Life Is Never Dependent On What Someone Else Is Or Isn’t Doing.
Through the experience of narcissistic abuse you were pulled out of your own power, and your entire feelings of Survival, Security and Identity became what the narcissist was or wasn’t doing.
This created your state of already existing codependency to be highlighted significantly, and allowed you to be abused.
When we recover from narcissistic abuse truly all of the illusions that something or someone outside of us is responsible for our state of self are released – because at True Self level anything or anyone else is ABSOLUTELY NOT responsible for us.
Your True Closure is this:
- What happened was meant to be for very important reasons.
- You hadn’t previously realised that your own lack of self-worth, self-love and poor boundary function attracted, allowed and enabled this to happen.
- Without this experience you would never have been able to clean up what you needed to in order to become empowered.
- You absolutely do have the resources within yourself and available in life to do this essential work on yourself.
- You can now become dedicated to yourself in order to create the life that is truly aligned with what you want, and
- This needed to happen, in order for you to create that alignment.
I can totally assure you, however, that when you do the right work on yourself, which is about claiming and healing your unhealed parts, that you will be grateful – incredibly grateful. Because you will know that your narcissistic abuse situation was in fact a co-created dance of divinity that allowed you finally to come home to yourself.
You will also know that there are no victims and no villains, and that you soul is always creating perfectly the circumstances and situation necessary for you to heal and become aligned with Who You Really Are. There are NO mistakes…
By accepting and knowing all of this you will be free to move forward and create…
and you will 100% know…
No-One Owes You Anything! It’s Not Their Job!
You owe YOU everything, and when you get THAT Right, you will effortlessly attract those people that add more of the same, and no longer play, struggle and obsess with those that don’t and can’t.